Etiquette 101

As you plan the wording for your wedding or special event invitations and envelopes, you may find it difficult to navigate through the many etiquette rules that come along with a formal invitation! Your invitations are the first thing your guests will see – and they will set the tone for your event, so they should be considered carefully. However, that doesn’t mean it has to be hard!

Below is a sample wording for a typical wedding invitation:

Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of their daughter
Ashley Elizabeth
Matthew Blake Johnson

Saturday, the fourth of June
Two thousand and sixteen
at four in the afternoon
The Jefferson Hotel
Richmond, Virginia

The most important thing that dictates your invitation wording is who is inviting your guests to the wedding. Typically, it is the bride’s parents who “invite” the guests. For some weddings, both the bride and groom’s parents are listed. Other couples don’t list their parents on their wedding invitations at all! It is generally governed by who is paying for the wedding, but ultimately it is a personal preference of who you’d like to include.

There are also ways to include your fiance’s parents’ names on the invitation without having them look like the ones hosting, if you’d like. You’d just list their names after your fiance’s name, for example:

Matthew Blake
son of Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Johnson

This is only one of the several ways that invitations can be customized for your wedding. Some couples elect to use their full names (first, middle and last) on their invitations, while others use only their first and middle.

Invitation wording can be a very cumbersome task, as it involves many different etiquette rules. I work with each of my couples to ensure that customizing their wedding invitation wording is a painless process!

Feel free to contact me at any time with questions, or if you’d like me to look over your invitation wording!